What is Zero Fucks Given?
It won’t teach you what to say to sound confident, the body language that will make you appear confident, or the visualization exercise that will make you feel confident. Zero Fucks Given will teach you how to become confident.
Self-confidence isn’t a quality that can be forced. The more you try to appear confident, the less confident you will appear.
Trying to be confident is much like trying to be funny. If someone says to you, “Make me laugh,” What happens? Because you’re on the spot, you try to force humor. It doesn’t work, even if the words you say are funny, the words lose their power because you are trying too hard.
To build deep self-confidence: genuine confidence that draws respect and admiration from others, you must understand that trying to appear confident is a doomed strategy. The more you try to appear confident, the more attention you bring to your insecurities.
What other approach is there? How can you become more confident without trying to look more confident? First, you must become aware of the insecurities that you don’t know you have. As soon as you become aware of the beliefs that are holding you back, you empower yourself to free yourself of those limitations.
Secondly, you must get comfortable with making yourself emotionally vulnerable. You must take social risks that make you feel uncomfortable, through this, you will develop the emotional callouses of groundedness and self-belief. To do this, you will need to change your relationship with negative emotions; the following pages will show you how to accomplish exactly that.
The pages in this book will teach you a psychologically sound approach to developing confidence that isn’t based on appearances, but on core self-belief. You will learn to care less what others think, and in so doing, make others think more positively of you. You will learn to stop giving a fuck, and in so doing, make others give a fuck about what you have to say. You will learn to stop trying to be something, and in so doing, become the person that others desperately try to be.
Make no mistake, this isn’t an easy process. I’m not offering a panacea that will solve all your social difficulties without effort. Instead, you’re going to learn how to invest your efforts in a way that produces worthwhile results.
This book isn’t going to give you a hit of validation by telling you how awesome you are; and it’s not designed to give you a false sense of accomplishment simply by reading its pages. Instead, it will give you the real, no-bullshit insights that helped me transition from the most socially insecure people I know, to one of the most confident.
The pages that follow contain an amalgam of concepts drawn from both scientific sources and personal experience.
These pages are like a map and a compass, pointing you in the right direction. Without your own efforts, they are meaningless, but when used as tools, they can catalyze deep self-confidence.Follow me on Snapchat to see daily infield footage (approaches, makeouts, pulls) Username: AveryGHayden